We have three fish; the last survivors of a fleet that now
swims in the great toilet bowl in the sky. We got the fish as a prize for our
son, Teddy, for finally being potty trained. While I love not having to deal
with changing wee sheets in the wee hours and lugging around a diaper bag the
size of steamer trunk, I hate the aquarium. I hate the hum of the filter. I
hate the smell of fish food. I hate that sometimes one of the residents hides
for two days, which means I turn into CSI Aquarium. That means grabbing a net and
digging for a body. Then that little orange sliver flits out from under a Tiki
hut and flips its tail at me, the fish version of the middle finger.
But the aquarium still stands. Why? A. Because it was my
idea in the first place. B. I’m a glutton for punishment. And C. Teddy was
obsessed with the dead fish episode of “Daniel Tiger.” We figured a
three-year-old should probably be introduced to the idea of living fish rather
than the latter. I proudly ranked myself as CAO: Chief Aquarium Operator. I
held the position for like a day. But the intense amount of dry heaving and
exclamations of, “OH MY GOD! I CAN’T! THE SMELL! I’M DYING!” led to my quick
retirement. In between bouts of nausea, I dragged my green-tinged carcass into
Jared’s office, and handed him the net. “You’re the captain, now.”
Honestly, in terms of unwanted chores, I would take dirty
diapers over cleaning out a fish tank. Have you ever tried to potty train a
kid? If you have, God bless you. I will pop open a can of wine in your honor. Teddy
never really showed interest in the idea of the potty. But diapers only go up
to certain size before it’s necessary to switch over to the geriatric section. When
dropping a potty-training child off at a friend’s house, the child is as
welcome as bear in a camper.
We decided it was time to start our foray into self-regulatory
control during a family night at my parents’ house. Teddy toddled around the
corner of the sectional, and cuddled up to my mom. He proudly stuck up a finger,
covered in a biological substance. It was poop. He had poop on his finger. They
say a child always shows signs of being ready to toilet train. If this wasn’t a
sign, then we’ve got bigger problems.
I immediately opened my Bible, also known as Pinterest, and
started pinning wildly. Cute potties! Baby urinals! Sticker charts! Prizes!
Rewards! Look at all the urological cuteness! I found a potty in the shape of a
skunk at our local Marshall’s. Get it, skunk? Stinky? Stinky kid butt? It’s
adorable.
Guess what’s not adorable? Let’s say it all together! POTTY
TRAINING. It’s irritating. It’s gross. It’s inconvenient. There are the two
approaches we took. Militaristic and Woodstock. So, the 60s, pretty much. For
the militaristic method, we set timers and placed the kid on the pot every ten
minutes. We put him in big kid undies to get the feel of freedom from the
diaper. We made a big deal when Jared went to the bathroom. This was a
short-lived approach, as it resulted in Teddy yelling in the middle of the
grocery store, “DADDY! Show me your penis!” If you have not experienced your
child yelling ‘penis’ and ‘vagina’ in a public place, just wait. It will
happen.
The Woodstock approach is just letting your little flower
child run around pants-less with a potty in a centralized location. Much like
hippies at Woodstock. Come on, ask your weird Aunt Sharon. She was there.
We also added a little frog-shaped urinal to our bathroom.
It was a frog head, mouth agape, with a little spinning tongue at which the kid
was supposed to “aim.” It was rather gross, if you think about it too much. We
named the urinal, Piddly. I have a thing for naming inanimate objects. Piddly
was a hit. Except when Teddy insisted on dumping it out into the toilet,
himself. Oh my Gawd. We practically
had to install a bleach dispenser. So much spilled urine. The carpet was
another story. It was old carpet. But we still had to function like civilized
people. When we pulled up that old beige carpet this past winter, the back
resembled the flooring they pull out of those houses on Hoarders.
It was a cathartic experience, watching that old carpet rise
into the air, as “I’m Proud to be an American” blasted from the Bose. My father-in-law
was over and as always, insists on his own playlist as he works. He’s free
labor, so we say play that funky music. His playlist has become part of our family
lore. An eclectic mix of Bon Jovi, TSO, the soundtrack from “Pitch Perfect,”
some doo-wop, and the Christian version of Nickelback’s “Kryptonite.”
Teddy is finally potty trained. It involved a lot of thrown away Spiderman
undies. We had his preschool open house a couple days ago. His new teacher’s
eyes lit up with joy when Teddy proclaimed he needed to go, and directed his
dad to the bathroom. Apparently, we didn’t wait too long to train him. So fear
not, my friends. It’s not too late. Jared’s mom still regales us with her
worries that back in the early 90s her own son would not be potty trained in
time for kindergarten. I do her son’s laundry now. I confess I’m still
concerned about his toilet habits sometimes.
But that’s parenthood. It’s filled with messy occurrences,
unwanted chores, and sometimes a dead fish. But there’s good stuff, too.
There’s a kid who announces loudly, “I GOTTA GO POTTY!”, and takes himself to
the bathroom. There’s new flooring that we put in ourselves. Now the cats just
puke on the remaining rugs. Teddy is no longer to blame for mystery stains.
Well, unless slime or Play Doh is involved. Then all fingers point to the
four-year-old. There’s still the aquarium, but I choose to ignore it. But isn’t
that what life is about? It takes the mundane and unwanted chores and work to
make you appreciate what you love. And potty training really makes you
appreciate clean underwear and wine.
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