We have reached the point where the stressors of modern life
are all too apparent and triggering, and as a result, my generation craves
nostalgia. I believe this is why shows like Stranger
Things have gained so much popularity. I, for one, absolutely love Stranger Things. The music, the clothes,
and the fantastical plot lines, like appeal of the retail dinosaur of our near
past – an actual functioning mall –begs for older millennials and gen x-ers to
curl up under their weighted blankets and through the foggy glass of time (or
wine) recall their childhoods. I also adore the Lethal Weapon movies, and I looove every John Hughes movie ever
made.
But there is another set of fabled tales that will always
remain dear to me and most of my female peers. These stories shaped my
childhood. Gather round, my children. For our story begins in a distant land
called Stoneybrook, Connecticut.
Yep, I’m talking about the Babysitter’s Club. The Babysitter’s
Club books, written by Ann M. Martin, followed a group of preteen best
friends and their adventures babysitting around their hometown, of, yes,
Stoneybrook, Connecticut. I. Was. Obsessed. Looking back, the books were ever so
much more fictional that little preteen me could fathom. I mean, can you
imagine leaving your infant child in your house alone, overnight with just a
12-year-old girl? My God. I’m already dialing CPS with shaking hands.
But I must mute my 32-year-old thinking from my 1998
thinking, when I, myself, was 12. My best friend Shannon, and I would ride our
bikes with a tote bag full of BSC books clunking and bouncing on the back
fender, to each other’s houses. Shannon’s house is one of the only houses I
have never had to knock on the door to be let in. I always busted through the
back door of the old farm house, grabbed a pop, and belly flopped onto her
living room floor. I still do this. Just switch out the pop with beer.
Life has changed immensely since those days. Parents would
never even consider letting their unattended 12- year-olds ride their bikes six
miles to a friend’s house. Past an overgrown junkyard and a quarry. Yes, a
quarry, like in Stranger Things. Now
I won’t let Teddy leave unattended for three minutes in our backyard while I
run into the house to pee. So, the entire premise of the Baby Sitter’s Club books has aged as well as Lil’ Kim. *I’m pausing
while you google what Lil’ Kim looks like now . . . I mean, right??
To emphasis my
point, let me share with you the plot of one of my favorite BSC books, Kristy and the Haunted Mansion. Kristy, BSC president and our favorite
closeted lesbian, gets caught in a horrible storm with her youth softball team
and her 17-year-old brother, Charlie. Their van breaks down, forcing them to
take shelter overnight in a huge creepy mansion, run by an old caretaker. A
bridge gets washed out, and they are stranded. Let’s break this down. Parents
of the softball players, ages ranging four to ten, were completely ok with a 17
and 12-year-old taking their children home in a terrible storm, in a big ol’
stoner van with a faulty transmission. They can’t call home because its 1993,
so parents are left with thinking the worst. Then these two pubescent idiots
think that their only choice is put their lives in the hands of a 60-year-old
hermit who lives in a shed? I’ve watched enough Dateline to know how this turns
out.
I thought about
doing a complete 2019 reboot of our favorite babysitters. Kristy would have met
a girl, Ray, in college who would have shown her the ins and outs of her
sexuality. They would have gotten married, adopted a couple dogs, and moved
into a bungalow close to Kristy’s parents. Kristy teaches PE now and coaches
the high school softball team. Ray sells soaps and organic cucumbers at the
local farmer’s market.
I wanted to
continue with other members of the BSC. Stacey, our favorite glamour girl and
diabetic, would have moved back to New York City and gotten in with the Bravo
crowd. She parties with Bethanny Frankel and takes the jitney to the Hamptons
every weekend in the summer. She thinks Luanne Delesseps is trash. And so on
and so forth. But after getting in deep about Dawn’s veganism and Green Party
membership, I had to stop.
Why does everything need a 2019 reboot? I’m sick of reboots.
Everything seems to have the life squeezed out of it anymore. Can’t we leave
well enough alone? Just this weekend, I see that three more Disney movies are
getting a reboot. I mean, the Lady and
the Tramp?! Let’s just all watch an ASPCA commercial without changing the
channel. Admit it. Not once have you heard Sarah McLaughlin’s entire spiel.
But, it all comes back to nostalgia and the lives we are
leading now. What are we missing from the days of John Hughes movies and parachute
pants? I think we all know. It’s innocence. It’s the innocent fun that came
with watching The Goonies and Pretty in Pink. It’s the innocence of
not being over exposed to stories of violence and cruelty. I’m completely aware
that, just as now, terrible things happened back then. But there was distance. I
could go into how we’re all being sucked into a dystopian worm hole through social
media. But I won’t. On the opposite side of that spectrum, a natural act of
kindness is now broadcast for all to see. I appreciate watching these bits of
happiness, but why do they have to be filmed? Is it that without visual proof,
we can’t believe it happened and that we so badly need to know we are still
capable of kindness?
A millennium’s worth of moments of kindness have happened
before us. There are no videos or photographic evidence of a woman sharing her
bread ration with a child in a concentration camp. But, we know it happened. I’m depressing you. And I didn’t even force
you to watch an ASPCA commercial.
Instead of rereading some BSC books, and trying to recreate a
lost part of my youth, I’ve decided to enjoy something that 2019 has to offer –
start a new movement of original thought. I could read a new book, or watch an
independent film, instead of re-watching Uncle
Buck for the tenth time.
The past is in the past. Time moves on, no matter how much
we lament years gone by. Here’s my challenge to you, friends. Create something
new and original. Enjoy the creative work of someone you admire. Enjoy what
today has to offer. As hard as it is to believe today, good things are
happening. We have Lizzo as proof of this.